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1. Be grateful.
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in yourlife – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, thehot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’seyes…
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonderand blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
2. Choose your friends wisely.
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individualhappiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to bearound people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who canmake your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
3. Cultivate compassion.
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation fromanother’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation withcompassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts andmore happiness.
4. Keep learning.
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains andput them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughtsand much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
5. Become a problemsolver.
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, theydon’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they faceup to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution.By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and yourability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whateverchallenges life throws your way.
6. Do what you love.
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do hasa huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment,then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate ahobby that involves doing something you love.
7. Live in the present.
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried oranxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy andpeaceful, you’re living in the present.
8. Laugh often.
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research hasshown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increaseyour feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humorand laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
9. Practice for giveness.
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’reactually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgiveyourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn andgrow to become a bigger and better person.
10. Say thanks often.
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equallyimportant to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better insome way, big or small.
11. Create deeper connections.
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on adeeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the mostimportant skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness toourselves, and to others.
12. Keep your agreement.
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And highself-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements withothers and with yourself.
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditationtraining are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training canlead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in thehippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structuresassociated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
14. Focus on what you’re doing.
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creatinga happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’reless likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered bythings that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!
15. Be optimistic.
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imaginethe very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then trainyourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of thesituation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success andhappiness.
16. Love unconditionally.
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so forothers. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend allyour time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional lovemeans accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways,at their own pace.
17. Don’t give up.
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem.If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give upuntil you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. Anddefeat only occurs when you give up.
18. Do your best and then let go.
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d likethem to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go.Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have noregrets.
19. Take care of yourself.
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s verydifficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well,exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and yourspirit.
20. Give back.
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, whenpeople do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center thatis stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise thatpeople who care more about others are happier than those who care less aboutothers.